Resources

LGBTQ RESOURCES

Education and Advocacy

HiTOPS
An adolescent health and sexuality education center in Princeton, NJ. Offers adolescent and young adult clinical services, educational programs and support groups.
www.hitops.org

Appreciating Differences: Creating Safe and Respectful Schools
This class defines biological sex, gender identity, and sexual orientation in a way that middle school students can understand. HiTOPS uses fun, interactive and age-appropriate activities to foster understanding, reduce harassment, and appreciate differences. Can be adapted for older students, parents, and teachers. Contact Elizabeth Walters at 609-683-5155 x218

GLSEN - Gay Lesbian Straight Education Network
National organization fighting to end antigay bias. Extensive resources for creating safer schools. www.glsen.org. See page 14 for list of GLSEN programs and resources. Contact GLSEN Central New Jersey chapter for school staff professional development and speakers for classes and school and community organizations: [email protected] and Carol Watchler at 609-448-5215.

www.glsen.org/centralnj www.glsen.org

Safe Schools Coalition
Extensive, up to date resources for making schools safer for all. Includes websites, research, classroom activities, and lots more.
www.safeschoolscoalition.org

PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays)
Provides support and educational materials for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender individuals, allies, and their families.
www.pflag.org

ANSWER
Encourages sexuality to be understood, respected, valued, and celebrated through education and activism. Online sexual health for teens: www.sexetc.org
www.answer.rutgers.edu

Ambiente Joven
Es un proyecto de advocates para jovenes y esta dedicada a la communidad gay, lesbian, bisexual, y transgender joven Latina en E.E.U.U. y Latino America.
www.ambientejoven.org

Asexual Visibility and Education Network
AVEN is a supportive community of sexual people and our allies. We seek to create open, honest public dialogue about asexuality.
www.asexuality.org 314-210-7659 [email protected]

African-American Office of Gay Concerns
The AAOGC serves as a resource for the GLBTI community, focusing on HIV prevention, particularly for young men of color, as well as transgender and questioning youth. Located in downtown Newark. All people are welcome, regardless of race or gender affiliation.
877 Broad St. Suite 211, Newark NJ. 973-639-0700. www.aaogc.org

The American Institute of Bisexuality
Organization focused on educating the general public about bisexuality.
www.bisexual.org

American Civil Liberties Union
Working to make public schools safe and bias-free for LGBT students, defending their free speech in school, and working to help students start gay-straight alliance clubs. Several resources on students’ rights in schools.
https://www.aclu.org/lgbt-rights/lgbt-youth-schools

God Loves Each One Ministry
Resources for people of faith eager to create a new dialogue about sexual orientation and gender differences in their family or congregation.
http://www.manyvoices.org/get-involved/shop/

Generation Q
Queer radio from New Brunswick with Pedro Serrano. Wednesdays 2-4pm on WRSU-FM 88.7
wrsu.rutgers.edu 732-932-7800 x913


Transgender Resources

Transgender Youth Groups NJ
Safe spaces for trans, gender non-conforming, agender, non-gender conforming, and other gender diverse individuals, allies, and families! Click here for full list

National Center for Transgender Equality
Social justice organization dedicated to advancing the equality of transgender people through advocacy, collaboration and empowerment.
www.transequality.org
NCTE: Your Rights at School: http://transequality.org/Resources/EducationKnowYourRights_June2012.pdf

Gender Rights Advocacy Association of New Jersey
A statewide membership organization committed to securing full civil rights for transgender and intersex people, and individuals of non-stereotypical gender identity and expression, without regard to race, religion, or sexual orientation.
[email protected] 732-603-0514

FTM International
This is a worldwide female-to-male trans community support. This site is the internet contact point for the largest, longest-running educational organization serving FTM transgender people and transsexual men. Provides information, newsletters and other publications, and support from volunteers who are willing to help if you need someone to talk to.
www.ftmi.org

Susan’s Place
Transgender resources and information on sex reassignment surgery.
www.susans.org

Advocates for Youth Project
“I Think I Might Be Transgender… Now What Do I Do?”
http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/storage/advfy/documents/transgender.pdf

ACLU’s Know Your Rights: Transgender People and the Law
Provides legal information about document changes, employer issues, bathrooms, and more.
https://www.aclu.org/translaw

PFLAG’s Transgender Network (T-NET)
Our Trans Children and Welcoming Our Trans Family and Friends, publications of the Transgender Network of PFLAG. Good resources to give to struggling parents or family members.
http://community.pflag.org/Document.Doc?id=189
http://community.pflag.org/Document.Doc?id=202

Gendertalk
The leading radio program advocating for transgender rights and dignity, while also exploring related issues that affect us all, like gender, sex, race, class, and more.
www.gendertalk.com

Sylvia Riviera Law Project
The Sylvia Riviera Law Project works to protect the right of gender self-expression and works to guarantee that all people are free to self-determine gender identity and expression, regardless of income or race, and without facing harassment, discrimination or violence.
www.srlp.org

TransFaith Online
Transfaith™ is a national non-profit that is led by transgender people and focused on issues of faith and spirituality. They work closely with many allied organizations, secular, spiritual, and religious, transgender-led and otherwise.
www.transfaithonline.org

Philadelphia Trans Health Conference
A program of the Mazzoni Center—the focus of this unique three day conference is promoting transgender health and wellness in mind, body, spirit, and community. PTHC recognizes the interconnections among all aspects of our well-being; including health, safety, education, employment, housing, and social support.
www.trans-health.org

Matt Kailey: Tranifesto
A blog and website with information about trans issues, including resources and books. Provides a really good FAQ on sex/gender, and what it means to be trans.
www.tranifesto.com

Trans Youth Family Allies
TYFA empowers children and families by partnering with educators, service providers and communities, to develop supportive environments in which gender may be expressed and respected.
www.imatyfa.org

Transgender Law Center
Transgender Law Center works to change law, policy, and attitudes so that all people can live safely, authentically, and free from discrimination regardless of their gender identity or expression.
www.transgenderlawcenter.org

Gender Spectrum
Gender Spectrum provides education, training and support to help create a gender sensitive and inclusive environment for all children and teens.
www.genderspectrum.org

NCTE and GLSEN: Model District Policy on Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Students
A document written by GLSEN and NCTE that outlines best practices for schools to ensure that all students are safe, included and respected in school, regardless of their gender identity or expression—including transgender and gender nonconforming students.
http://glsen.org/learn/policy/model-laws-policies

Gender Blender: A Movie About a Third Gender
WE EXIST follows the life of Lauren, a person who identifies as “gender neutral,” as well as the life of others who exist outside the binary gender structure of female and male. Take an intimate journey through the physical, emotional, and spiritual changes Lauren and others undergoes just to be themselves.
http://weexist.co/

TransActive
TransActive is an internationally recognized non-profit focused on serving the diverse needs of transgender and gender nonconforming (GNC) children, youth, their families and allies.
www.transactiveonline.org

Trans Youth Equality
The Trans Youth Equality Foundation provides education, advocacy and support for transgender and gender non-conforming children and youth and their families. Check out their Rosetta Stone, a translation guide for adults with transgender children.
www.transyouthequality.org
http://www.transyouthequality.org/trans101.html

 

Transgender Youth Groups in NJ 

HiTOPS - Trans* Youth Group

Sundays, 4-5:30pm, dates TBD. Age range: 12-21

HiTOPS, 21 Wiggins St., Princeton, NJ

Listed at www.hitops.org (Teens/Young Adults, LGBTQ Support Groups)

Contact: Daniel Fernandez, 609-683-5155 x234, [email protected]

 

Gender Spectrums Support Network

First and Third Transtime Social Group

1st & 3rd Wednesdays, 7-9pm, for youth of all ages

At Project R.E.A.L., 805 4th Ave., Asbury Park, NJ

General Trans* Community and Allies Support Group

4th Wednesday, 7-9pm, for trans* folks and allies of all ages

Church House of the Presbyterian Church

352 Sycamore Ave., Shrewsbury, NJ

www.GenderSpectrumsSupportNetwork.org

Contact: Margo Saltzman, 732-531-4280,

[email protected]

 

Transgender Support Group

Free drop-in group for ages 18-26; meeting dates and times TBA

133 Franklin Corner Road, second floor, Lawrenceville, NJ

Contact: Tracey Post, LCSW, 609-375-8727

 

Pride Center of New Jersey - TrueSelves

3rd Sundays, 4-6pm; Recommended for trans individuals 18+

The Pride Center, 321 Raritan Ave., Highland Park, NJ

Contact: Samantha Nokes, [email protected] , or Pride Center,

732-846-2232; www.pridecenter.org/groups

 

Institute for Personal Growth (IPG) - Youth and Parent Support Groups

3rd Saturdays, 12:30-2pm; Age range 13-21

1119 Raritan Ave., Highland Park, NJ

Contact: 800-379-9220 or 732-246-8439; www.ipgcounseling.com

Cost: Sliding scale fee; insurance accepted, see website for details.

 

Pathways - Transgender Support Group

2nd Saturdays, 7-11pm in Bergen County, NJ

Contact: [email protected]  to join the group; www.pathwaystg.org

 

Hudson Pride - TransView

Every Tuesday, 6-8:30pm; Age range 13-20

32 Jones St., Jersey City, NJ

All trans allies are welcome on the last Tuesday of every month

www.hudsonpride.org

Contact: Kimberly Adams, 201-963-4779 x116, [email protected]

 

PFLAG Princeton - T-Net Parent Support Group

2nd Mondays, 7-9pm; Trinity Church, 33 Mercer St., Princeton, NJ

www.pflagprinceton.org

Contact: [email protected] ; Corrine O’Hara, 609-683-

5155 x217, [email protected]; Terri Gans, [email protected]

 

PFLAG Collingswood - Transgender Support Group

4th Mondays, 6:30-9:30pm

Collingswood Community Center, 30 W. Collings Ave. Collingswood, NJ

Contact: Dr. Lee Ann Etscovitz, [email protected]

 

PFLAG Jersey Shore - Transgender/Transfamilies Support Group

3rd Mondays, 7pm; Church House of the Presbyterian Church

352 Sycamore Ave., Shrewsbury NJ; www.jerseyshorepflag.org

Contact: Abby Maisonave, 908-814-2155, [email protected]

 

Bergen County PFLAG - Transgender Support Group

3rd Wednesdays, 7:30pm

Temple Beth Or, 56 Ridgewood Road, Washington Twp, NJ

Contact: Wendy, [email protected] 

 

Support Groups and Youth Programs

First & Third – HiTOPS
21 Wiggins St, Princeton, NJ 08540. (609) 683-5155 x217 Fun, interactive meetings for LGBTQA youth on the first and third Saturday of every month 2:30-4:30 pm.
www.hitops.org

Youth Drop In – The Pride Center of New Jersey
85 Raritan Avenue, Suite 100, Highland Park, NJ 08904 (732) 846-2232 Meets second and fourth Saturday of every month at 1pm.
www.pridecenter.org/groups

LGBT Youth Connect Program – Hudson Pride Connections Center
132 Jones Street, Jersey City, NJ 07306. (201) 963-4779. Meets every Friday 3:00 - 8:00 pm. Dinner and snacks provided.
www.hudsonpride.org/programs-services/pride-connections/lgbt-youth-young-adults

Recovery Support Group – Mazzoni Center
William Way Community Center, 1315 Spruce Street, Philadelphia, PA 19107. (215) 563-0652 x509. Beginnings – Meets every Wednesday 5:30-6:30. Stepping Stone – Meets every Monday 2:30-3:30
www.mazzonicenter.org/programs/support-groups

Transgender Support Group – Mazzoni Center
Mazzoni Center, 21 South 12th Street, 8th Floor, Philadelphia, PA 19107. (215) 563-0652 x509. Evolutions – Meets every Thursday 6:00-7:00 pm.
www.mazzonicenter.org/programs/support-groups

True Colors – Liberation in Truth Social Justice Center
11 Halsey Street, Newark, NJ 07102. (973) 424-9555. Drop in Center – Meets every Wednesday and Thursday 4:00-8:00 pm.
www.litsjc.org/?page_id=6

Youth Support Group – Gay Asbury Park
83 West Main Street, Freehold, NJ 07728. (732) 431-5872 x3. Meets second and fourth Wednesday of every month 6:30-8:00 pm.
www.gayasburypark.com

Youth Enrichment Services (YES) Program – The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Community Center
208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011. (212) 620-7310. Meets Tuesdays-Fridays 3:00-7:00 pm, Saturdays 12:00-5:00 pm.
www.gaycenter.org/youth

After School Services – The Hetrick-Martin Institute
2 Astor Place, New York, NY 10003. (212) 674-2400. Meets Mondays-Fridays 3:00-8:00
www.hmi.org/page.aspx?pid=236

Asbury Park LGBTQ Youth Drop-In Center—Project R.E.A.L.
805 4th Ave, Asbury Park, NJ
1-800-947-0020
[email protected]

Kaleidoscope
This monthly student-led meeting provides a safe, supportive environment for LGBT and allied teens to gather, socialize, organize, and help each other. 2400 Voorhees Town Center. Meets the third Saturday of every month at The Spot from 1PM to 3PM. 856-417-4572 http://kaleidoscopesj.com/

 

Toll-Free Hotlines

The Gay and Lesbian National Hotline (The GLNH)
1-888-843-4564

Monday-Friday 4:00 pm – 12:00 am, Saturday 5:00 – 10:00pm. For callers of all ages needing to talk:coming out issues, relationship concerns, HIV/AIDS anxiety, safer sex information, and more.

Peer Listening Line
1-800-399-PEER (7337)

Monday-Friday 6:00-11:00 pm. Youth support and info, staffed by trained GLBT volunteers age 25 and under.
www.fenwayhealth.org/site/pageserver?pagename=FCHC_srv_services_tollfree

2NDFLOOR
1-888-222-2228

is a confidential and anonymous helpline for New jersey’s youth and young adults available at any time for help in solving problems at home, school, and play.
www.2ndfloor.org

The Trevor Lifeline
1-866-4-U-TREVOR (1-866-488-7386)

24-hour free and confidential suicide prevention hotline specifically aimed at gay and questioning youth in crisis

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender National Youth Talkline
1-800-246-PRIDE (1-800-246-7743)

Monday-Friday 4:00 pm – 12:00 am. Telephone and email counseling run by peer volunteers for young adults up to age 25. Coming out issues, relationship concerns, parent issues, school problems, HIV/AIDS anxiety, safer sex information, and more.
[email protected]



Social Media and Online Groups

TrevorSpace
www.trevorspace.org
Social networking site for LGBTQ youth ages 13 through 24 and their friends and allies.

BiNet USA
www.facebook.com/groups/binetusa
www.binetusa.org

SMYAL’s SafeSpace
www.symal.org/safespace.php
www.symal.org
A discussion board for LGBTQ youth and allies to discuss what’s on their mind. SafeSpace is a message board for LGBTQ youth ages 13-21

It Gets Better Project
www.itgetsbetter.org
You are not alone, and it will get better. Record your own “It Gets Better” video and submit it!

 

LGBTQIA+ Starter Library

Curated by Megan McCafferty, New York Times bestselling author and HiTOPS volunteer

 

Favorite LGB YA Fiction (high school and up)

 

 “Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda” (2015) Becky Albertelli

Sixteen-year-old and not-so-openly gay Simon Spier prefers to save his drama for the school musical. But when an email falls into the wrong hands, his secret is at risk of being thrust into the spotlight.

“Beauty Queens” (2011) Libba Bray

When a plane crash strands 13 teen beauty contestants on a mysterious island, they struggle to survive, to get along with one another, to combat the island's other diabolical occupants, and to learn their dance numbers in case they are rescued in time for the competition.

“The Miseducation of Cameron Post “(2012) Emily M. Danforth

When Cameron Post’s parents die suddenly in a car crash, her shocking first thought is relief. Relief they’ll never know that, hours earlier, she had been kissing a girl.

“Tell Me Again How A Crush Should Feel” (2014) Sara Farizan

High-school junior Leila has made it most of the way through Armstead Academy without having a crush on anyone, which is something of a relief. Her Persian heritage already makes her different from her classmates; if word got out that she liked girls, life would be twice as hard. 

 “Openly Straight” (2013) Bill Konigsberg

Rafe is a normal teenager from Boulder, Colorado. He plays soccer. He's won skiing prizes. He likes to write. And, oh yeah, he's gay. The award-winning novel about being out, being proud, and being ready for something else.

“Everything Leads to You” (2014) Nina LaCour

Ava is unlike anyone Emi has ever met. She has a tumultuous, not-so-glamorous past, and lives an unconventional life. She’s enigmatic…. She’s beautiful. And she is about to expand Emi’s understanding of family, acceptance, and true romance.

“Boy Meets Boy” (2003) David Levithan

This is the story of Paul, a sophomore at a high school like no other: The cheerleaders ride Harleys, the homecoming queen used to be a guy named Daryl, and the gay-straight alliance was formed to help the straight kids learn how to dance.

 “Ash” (2009) Malinda Lo

Cinderella retold. The day that Ash meets Kaisa, the King's Huntress, her heart begins to change. Instead of chasing fairies, Ash learns to hunt with Kaisa. Though their friendship is as delicate as a new bloom, it reawakens Ash's capacity for love-and her desire to live. 

“Aristotle & Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe” (2014) Benjamin A. Saenz

Aristotle is an angry teen with a brother in prison. Dante is a know-it-all who has an unusual way of looking at the world. But as the loners start spending time together, they discover that they share a special friendship—the kind that changes lives and lasts a lifetime.

 

 

Favorite LGB Middle Grade Fiction (upper elementary/middle school)

 

“Better Nate than Never” (2014) “Five, Six, Seven, Nate!” (2015) Tim Federle

Nate Foster has big dreams. His whole life, he’s wanted to star in a Broadway show. But how is Nate supposed to make his dreams come true when he’s stuck in Jankburg, Pennsylvania, where no one (except his best pal Libby) appreciates a good show tune? 

“See You at Harry’s” (2012) Jo Knowles

Twelve-year-old Fern feels invisible. It seems as though everyone in her family has better things to do than pay attention to her. Brother Holden pretends that Mom and Dad and everyone else doesn’t know he’s gay, even as he fends off bullies at school. 

“The Misfits” (2003) “Totally Joe” (2007) “Addie on the Inside” (2011) “Also Known as Elvis” (2015) James Howe

The middle school series that inspired National No Name-Calling Week. Join Bobby, Joe, Addie, and Skeezie in these four special books that have become favorites and classics for their smart, honest portrayal of all the ups and downs of middle school—and of growing up.

 “So Hard to Say” (2006) Alex Sanchez

Frederick knows he should be flattered by Xio's attention. After all, she's popular, pretty, and a lot of fun. So why can't he stop thinking about Victor, the captain of the soccer team?

 

Favorite Trans* Young Adult Fiction

 

“I AM J”  (2011) Cris Beam

J always felt different. He was certain that eventually everyone would understand who he really was; a boy mistakenly born as a girl. An inspiring story of self-discovery, of choosing to stand up for yourself, and of finding your own path. 

“Beautiful Music for Ugly Children” (2012) by Kristin Cronn-Mills

When you think about it, I'm like a record. Elizabeth is my A side, the song everybody knows, and Gabe is my B side--not heard as often, but just as good. It's time to let my B side play.  

“Freakboy” (2013) Kristin Elizabeth Clark

In razor-sharp verse, Kristin Clark folds three narratives into one powerful story: Brendan trying to understand his sexual identity, Vanessa fighting to keep her and Brendan’s relationship alive, and Angel struggling to confront her demons.

 “Being Emily” (2013)

They say that whoever you are it’s okay, you were born that way. Those words don’t comfort Emily, because she was born Christopher and her insides know that her outsides are all wrong.

 “The Unintentional Time Traveler” Everett Maroon

 Jack/Jacqueline is caught between two lives and epochs, and must find a way to save everyone around him as well as himself.

 “Lizard Radio” (2015) Pat Schmatz

Fifteen-year-old Kivali has never fit in. As a girl in boys’ clothes, she is accepted by neither tribe, bullied by both. Is it true that Kivali was left by a mysterious race of saurians and that she’ll one day save the world? 

 “Parrotfish” (2007, updated 2015) Ellen Wittlinger

Angela Katz-McNair has never felt quite right as a girl. Her whole life is leading up to the day she decides to become Grady, a guy. Why can't people just let Grady be himself?

 

Favorite Trans* Middle Grade Fiction (upper grade school/junior high)

 

“George” (2015) Alex Gino

George’s teacher announces that their class play is going to be Charlotte's Web. But the teacher says she can't try out for Charlotte because she's a boy.  With the help of her best friend, Kelly, George comes up with a plan so everyone can know who she is, once and for all.

 “Gracefully Grayson” (2014) Ami Polonsky

Alone at home, twelve-year-old Grayson Sender glows, immersed in beautiful thoughts and dreams. But at school, Grayson grasps at shadows, determined to fly under the radar. Grayson has been holding onto a secret for what seems like forever: “he” is a girl on the inside, stuck in the wrong gender’s body.

 

Favorite Trans* Nonfiction (High School and up)

 

“Transparent: Love, Family and Living the T With Transgender Teenagers” (2008) Cris Beam

 “Some Assembly Required: The Not So Secret Life of a Transgender Teen” (2014) Arin Andrews

“Rethinking Normal: A Memoir in Transition” (2014) Katie Rain Hill

 “Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource Guide for the Transgender Community” (2015) Laura Erickson-Schroth (Editor)

 “Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More” (2014) Janet Mock

“Beyond Magenta: Transgender Teens Speak Out” (2014) Susan Kuklin

 

Favorite Literary LGBTQIA+ Resources

 

GAY YA  http://www.gayya.org/

American Library Association Rainbow Books http://glbtrt.ala.org/rainbowbooks/

We Need Diverse Books http://weneeddiversebooks.org/

 

GLSEN Days of Action

Want to create a safe and welcoming climate in your school?

Check these resources.

 

Ally Week, www.glsen.org/allyweek  -- Ally Week is a week for students to identify, support and celebrate Allies against anti-LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) language, bullying and harassment in America's schools. September 28–October 2, 2015.

 

Day of Silence, www.glsen.org/dayofsilence   --- The Day of Silence is a student-led national event that brings attention to anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying and harassment in schools. Students from middle school to college take a vow of silence in an effort to encourage schools and classmates to address the problem of anti-LGBT behavior by illustrating the silencing effect of bullying and harassment on LGBT students and those perceived to be LGBT.  .April 15, 2015

 

No Name Calling Week, www.glsen.org/nonamecallingweek  --- No Name-Calling Week is an annual week of educational activities aimed at ending name-calling of all kinds and providing schools with the tools and inspiration to launch an on-going dialogue about ways to eliminate bullying in their communities. January 18--22 , 2016.

 

October is LGBT History Month. Curriculum resources for October and throughout the year: Unheard Voices, http://glsen.org/unheardvoices.html and History month icons and resources at Equality Forum, http://lgbthistorymonth.com/

 

Think Before You Speak, www.thinkb4youspeak.com --- Say Something Original and pledge to be an ally to lesbian, gay, bisexual  and transgender (LGBT) students. In becoming an ally, you promise not to use homophobic words and phrases – such as “that’s so gay” – and to educate others when you hear them being used.

 

Changing the Game, GLSEN Sports Project, http://sports.glsen.org

The GLSEN Sports Project’s mission is to assist K-12 schools in creating and maintaining an athletic and physical education climate that is based on the core principles of respect, safety and equal access for all, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression.

 

GLSEN Central New Jersey Student Leadership Team –contact this group of youth leaders for ideas for empowering your Gay Straight Alliance or other school club or initiative, [email protected]

 

Contact GLSEN, The Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network Central New Jersey Chapter for support and assistance with Days of Action, speakers for student groups, educators and community.  [email protected], 609-449-5215.